Hubuduh What?

once again. i'm mean to people. i make them feel bad.
2006-05-17 : 1:41 am

I've gotten "yelled" at by two of the people whose emails I'm CONSTANTLY answering today, both of whom exclaimed and insisted that I had no idea what it was like to lose someone as close to you as a parent or a grandparent, and that I am heartless and cold, disrespectful and insensitive. One copied his letter to my supervisor. The first one who emailed me with this is simply crazy so I don't mind her. The second person, however, was responding to what was simply a misunderstanding. The problem, however, is that he spent the entire email telling me that I had no idea what it was like to go through what he went through with his grandfather (what he went through with his grandfather, incidentally, was exactly what I went through with my dad. Exactly. Which is why this is so bizarre, and why it hurts so much) and that I was incredibly unprofessional and insensitive.

Actually, I just found out this very moment that he also left a voicemail for the owner of the company, which was forwarded to me, in which he spits my name like it is venom.

I swear, I was following protocol, but I hit a nerve with this guy. My supervisors all say they know I was misunderstood, and I should email an apology to him (which I did) and they are not upset with me.

This guy has no clue how incredibly wrong about me he is. This whole thing has made me cry for like, an hour. I'm used to people being annoyed or irritated with me, I mean, okay, I'm not USED to it, but it happens, but this guy just completely despises me, he's called me out on it, and notified two of my supervisors about it in two different ways, via email AND a phone call. He said "it is incomprehensible that anyone could be so insensitive." "this was incredibly unprofessional" "I know this works, that once somebody complains about an employee the others find that their work depletes." "I would assume that the company as a whole are far more professional than Miss Willowfox has presented herself to be."

ET CETERA.

See, now, this guy may be really sensitive, but his feelings are totally valid. I can't go into what the whole thing was about for confidentiality reasons, it would give away the nature of the project I'm working on, and that's something I could get fired over. But even if he is being overly sensitive, that doesn't discount how he feels at all. You can't just blow someone off and say "oh, well, they're being touchy" because it is truly a direct relationship. The degree to which someone is offended is truly how offensive the statement was. Especially in a business relationship.

Maybe like, one of you remembers the Last Year Incident in which I was mean and horrible and insensitive and a dude I work with took my words ALL KINDS of wrong and was mortally offended. It's somewhere in the old pages, I'm not gonna link to it now, but that guy was a little fucking crazy person and was upset over a complete misunderstanding. This guy is upset over a misunderstanding, but it has to do with something that is very real and painful, so it carries a lot more weight.

They are both actors, by the way. Maybe I'm done with actors.

I'm just glad I found out about this on a home day, because if I was in the office it'd be bad. No one likes to cry at work.

Oh, god and listening to that voicemail, the way he flubs over his words... it's so obvious that he like, took the time to write out what he was going to say, but wanted it to sound natural so he just used his notes for reference. I do that when I'm REALLY upset or nervous about something.

I'm just not used to having had such a serious and negative impact on someone.

This is a really fucking awesome way to end a 12 hour day in which I was only able to get half of what I had wanted accomplished.

My head really hurts.